Your Complete Guide to Yoni Wands

Crystal Yoni Wands aren't just any old toy, they hold the energetic frequency of the crystal in addition to their physical benefits. 

They can be used to massage the erogenous zones, be used internally for pleasure, or for setting intentions during sex rituals.

Below is a guide for choosing and beginning your first Yoni Wand practice:

Picking Your Wand Based on Crystal Properties

For most people doing this for the first time, the process is no doubt an intentional one.

Your choice and decision will go far beyond your favorite color. Your choice of yoni wand is based on the properties of the crystals and on your physical and emotional needs, so this decision is an individual one.

Rose Quartz wands are quite popular. They are synonymous with unconditional love, self-love, peace, forgiveness, and gentleness. Black Obsidian is, however, all about ridding the body of trapped negative energies and traumas.

Take some time to reflect on the aspects of yourself that could use extra energy and love. It could be self-love, compassion, grounding, boundaries, etc. 

Before choosing a crystal, read on their individual properties to best select which will assist you on this journey.

Picking Your Wand Based on Designs

Yoni wand designs also offer characteristic properties and advantages as well.

These can also influence your choice as this means there are subtle differences in what the sensations may feel like.

The straight wands are designed to penetrate deep into over-tired vaginal tissues and muscles to open you up, release tension, and make the individual more orgasmic and receptive to touch.

The shape and energy of the wands is very “yang” – it has a clear, direct focus (de-armoring or pleasure) and is more about releasing sexual energy/unwanted emotions – which brings its own healing and builds vitality.

And then we have the curved wands and the G-Spot wands. The curved wands are designed with a great emphasis on ergonomics. They are great for massaging pleasure points for what is known as “erotic reflexology.”

The thinner end of the Curve is crafted for an internal massage to relieve muscle tension and emotional blockages. The thicker end of the toy is perfect for G-spot exploration. Curves wands are created with the intention of healing and opening up to pleasure. 

How to Clean and Cleanse Your Wand

Keep your crystal wand in a safe sacred space, free from direct sunlight or items that may cause damage.

Use water free from chemicals (natural rainwater or spring water is ideal). You can simply rinse well with warm water and use a bit of PH balanced soap to rub over the wand.

Rub dry with a clean cloth once you're done.


Honoring your wand with energy baths is a way to honor yourself as well.

Yoni Wands can be cleansed energetically by methods such as visualization, sound, or smudging with palo santo, sweetgrass, sage, etc.

Placing under moonlight is another way to cleanse as well.

Physical Use

Set Intentions

Connect with your wand through setting an intention for your practice. For example, for cultivating deeper self-love, body exploration, manifesting, trauma healing, pleasure, etc.

Gently trace the wand over your body. Feel the energetic potency of the crystal glide over your body. Take your time, breathe deeply, and notice any sensations arising.

Visualize your breath guiding the way. Become aware of any shortness of breath, stuck energy, tension, and breathe life into these spaces.

Tune in to the body and see if your body is saying "yes" to being entered by the wand. If it is a full-body yes, slowly begin inserting the wand, allowing the Yoni to take it in rather than force and push.

From here, move slowly, intentionally, noticing any sensations arising. Whatever practice you move into from here is up to you. Hold your intentions for your practice, visualize, use alongside partner, etc. Let your body and intuition guide the rest of the way.